Life is too short to dread Mondays! By Mariam Dadabhay, Published Author

Your work is going to fill a large part of your life and the only way to be truly satisfied is…to Love what you do and don’t settle for anything less….

Do you feel Monday is Looming?…..dreading it already? Monday doesn’t have to be your unspoken enemy. Identify what it is that’s preventing you from waking up a happy, lively soul…

Many of us no matter what profession, have struggled with the FEAR of Monday mornings. Whether its getting up early for a long commute, going to a job that you’re not aligned to anymore or where you colleagues seem to be progressing faster….

Whatever the reason, these are some fast tips to ensure you are using your precious gifts and talents in a way that  makes you truly happy and satisfied.

  1. Write it down…whatever that feeling is FEAR, DREAD, DEPRESSED, ANXIOUS,  write it down and identify the real route cause. Is it low pay, lack of challenge, a bad working atmosphere. By becoming self aware, you can move to action faster.
  2. Make a plan…Once you have identified the source of your emotion, start to make some small changes. For example if the issue is the long commute, try getting lunches, clothes etc ready the night before to make your morning less stressful.
  3. Look around…isn’t it a big world?  There are plenty of jobs and positions out there just waiting for someone like you.  Explore the market, get in touch with recruiters and coaches who can help you find that perfect position.
  4. Don’t like to work for anyone else?…try start your own business. There are so many entrepreneurs who are available to give advice and guidance.  There are plenty of start you own business courses in your local enterprise offices and books to guide you…spend some time in Easons and grab the first business book that attracts you at first glance.
  5. Try a vision board, check out pinterest on how to create the dream life you have always wanted.

Finally, don’t let anyone ever tell you that you can’t.


So Monday, we meet again.

We will never be friends—but maybe we can move past our mutual enmity toward a more-positive partnership.”
Julio Alexi Genao





Make Room4Resilience

Author: Mariam Dadabhay, Executive Coach, Set4Life

Change is now moving faster than peoples capacity to cope with it. This can be seen with the onset of Brexit, the rise in workplace stress and the decrease in motivation and engagement. Time is precious, yet most of it is spent fighting fire. What happens when there is a set back, particularly a challenging one- no promotions, a bad performance review, pay cuts, illness, loss. Many people react with strong emotion and a lack of certainty.

Those who can cope in the face of set backs and bounce back even stronger have what we call Resilience.

So what is Resilience?

Its an ongoing process that changes and engages people in taking steps to bounce back from adverse of challenging situations. The road to resilience can often involve distress however we can see around the world how people have the capacity to bounce back from hugely horrific events such as Sep 2011. How did these people repair their lives? ….Step by Step..

Research and ongoing recent training in the area tells us that resilience in the workplace reinforces learning (self efficacy), confidence, leadership, reduces stress and increases performance.

Many studies have shown that the primary factor of building resilience is having a supportive network of colleagues, friends and family. Other factors include

  • The capacity to make realistic plans and take steps to carry them out.
  • A positive view of yourself and confidence in your strengths and abilities.
  • Skills in communication and problem solving.
  • The capacity to manage strong feelings and impulses.

However the road to resilience is a personal journey and there are many strategies for building resilience. There is no one perfect strategy.

Some coping tools you can do today are: reaching out and networking, being mindful and compassionate with yourself, developing your emotional awareness, take decisive action, plan goals and many more…

GoalGetters and Set4Life have combined to provide you with room for resilience and take you through a 6 week process to build that resilience you have always needed. Taking you though the 4 dimensions of resilience-Mental, Physical, Emotional and Spiritual. Enabling you to navigate life’s challenges and remain strong and confident in the face of set backs.

For organisations, the rise in resilience can leverage the strong potential of the workforce making their most valuable asset a lot more adaptable and flexible to change, more resilient to stress and gaining more capacity to take on challenging goals and to deliver with decisiveness!

  • If this is for you, please contact Set4Life on 0872666200.
  • So why not navigate your way down the resilience river with coping tools and protection against the obstacles. It might just be your Life Saver!

Our mood is always influenced by our thoughts

Today is going to be a fantastic day full of wonder and miracles!

“The most important decision you make is to be in a good mood” – Voltaire

It’s easy to wake up on the wrong side of the bed. You get up, stub your toe and make a decision that today is not going to be a good day. In fact, it’s going to utter pants.

From that point on your day goes down the plug hole in a spiral of negativity, defeat and grumpiness. You’ve turned in to the person everyone avoids at the water cooler and the cloud of negativity hovering above your head is getting darker by the minute.

As far as you are concerned, the day is wasted. One of your internal narrators (that pesky Gremlin always loves to kick you when you’re down ) condones your behaviour by telling you to “go on, revel in the negativity, you’ve come this far. Indulge yourself!” The effort to pull yourself out of this mood seems Herculean so you give in and let the black mood to continue to pour over you (and any poor soul who should come in contact with you).

Doesn’t paint a pretty picture, does it?

Let’s look at a different scenario:

You wake up and stub your toe. You say to yourself that you’re not going to let this affect your mood, after all, it could happen to anyone, no big deal. Let it go.

You make a decision to change your thoughts to a more positive frequency, and go on your merry way. Your day hasn’t been affected by it, and neither has Joe the water cooler guy. Joe, and any anyone else you meet, has instead been treated to the pleasure of your positivity and happiness, and have left feeling just that wee bit better with their day.

A much prettier picture. I choose this one, thank you very much!

Our thoughts can be changed. When you hear your Gremlin spitting out a negative thought, brush him off your shoulder and make a conscious effort to change the thought to a positive one. When the next negative thought sneaks it’s way in, change the thought to a positive one again….and again…and again…..

The more room taken up by positive thoughts the less room there is for negative ones.

PS Voltaire was born in 1694 so this is nothing new!

Have a great day!